At the later part of my adolescence, I discovered one repeating event – expectation. It was at this time that my Dad and people around me started to need me to act up in a particular way, to make certain decisions and to forfeit certain things not because I don’t like them but because I have to for some reason I never understood until now. At this point I needed to either disappoint their hopes or do what I really feel they suggest and I think might be right.
In my life so far, I have met a couple of my friend who will say “ I got my Dad to everything for me and he seem ok about it”. I just laugh it because deep within such parents of such folks, the mourn the fact that they have babies above 15 years old. I’m not trying to be comparative here, just join me to nail this coffin and we might see reasons to transform.
This is what I observed, I was constantly blamed for the mistakes of other people in the house, I was deprived of things that my siblings would just get without friction and my Dad would actually act hysterically to anything he considered I was doing wrong, I remember never winning any case that broke up in my Dad’s panel due to a might between my siblings and I, even though I might seem right. It was rough as I would call it then but when I got to the university and met a lot of guys up here, I saw lives I would have wanted to get down like. Suddenly, I would rapidly appreciate what I hated. These are the groups of people I met:
Once I met a friend who was making arrangement to fuel a generator for his personal domestic power supply. He said “I will like to buy 20litres of fuel weekly to run my light” so I asked how long he uses the generator through the night. Replying he told me “is a new generator, it doesn’t matter how long it runs, it can withstand”. Actually, at that point, I knew I had nothing else to say. To me, actual reasoning on this matter should not be how long the generator can withstand but how much a good financial plan to run generator for a while that light is really needed would be. It could have been “I have to read up for couple hours through the night” or something else.
I met others too who would use money because they will get it sent to their accounts. I know for sure that a bad financial plan for everyone coming up is a big problem. There is a life later that does not get money sent but gets money earned and I have seen what poor financial plan result in even with a big earn. Now money came be visualized as a ‘fluid’ that flows in a direction that slopes, a bad financial plan in life is like a slope and no matter how much money present, will always flow to waste. This ends up to render a long time of hustle useless because at the end of the day a certain bank account has a massive influx but has nothing that stays to keep it fat. That is where you see people with big earning going on debts. Truly, if managing resources makes you look bad (too economical), then tell me about collecting debt.
All these take us back to the fact that, now, when the attitude is needed to be initiated, it failed. Squarely I blame some parents for lack of insight; they did not take time to build children who will take after them, but children whom they will attend to even at 40. So they just sit and expect the child to pick up a good sight on how life actually is from outside. The last time I checked, you barely pick up treasure on the ground without wiping it and shaping it, ready made parcels come for the skies and drop in your hand. Now picking up your child to take them through basics of living is an already made parcel falling from the sky, and is once just like a shooting star. I don’t know all because I have not lived more than 3 decades, but so far I have seen many plans gone bad which I tried to correct.
Guys listen up, we are heading a life that says “we gotta live on our brains”. The background footsteps have not worked, if the steps set by our parents were straight enough we would have seen better results reflected as a better country with a better system. And, really, if we hope to see a Nigeria that we can’t criticize due to guilt of ‘what did I do to make it better’ and no one outside will criticize because ‘you have made it good’, then we must watch ourselves take options today that promises us good tomorrow. if not, I don’t see the change coming. You can’t wait until your hairs turn gray before you begin to decide maturely, they might not turn at all. Its either now or you end up breaking the dreams of fellows that have tried to make it right. Moreover, the people who look up to you will be disappointed because you have failed. Common, you got a big bite of education, a data base of knowledge in your hand, why not turn it to a beautiful flower that smells so nice for the world around you to perceive?